‘Scuse me for not having that life-coach “look,” y’all.

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When the hell was that Aspirational Aesthetics masterclass? I MISSED that part of coaching training! 

Ever wonder why so many writers and coaches look… Well… Like that?

The just-so makeup and (usually blond) perfectly, artfully-messy hair? The high-end yoga clothes and even-teeth, beatific smile? The curated collection of crystals? The penchant for beachfront photography and quotes from Rumi and Tony Robbins? All those…pastels?

Really, Debbie?

I’m not gonna lie. I wonder sometimes. 

When the hell was that Aspirational Aesthetics masterclass? I MISSED that part of coaching training! 

I’m not saying any of this to knock on those beautiful women. I know them. I love quite a few of them, as friends. My bisexual ass has definitely crushed on at least one of ’em. I support them as the empowered and wonderful people they are – even as I politely decline their more woo-woo activities like energy healing, self-marriage ceremonies and the egg-shaped rocks you’re supposed to put…where??

Y’all, I’m no stranger to the woo. I’m definitely not Jen Gunter levels of cynical when it comes to the mystical connections around your body, spirit, the world surrounding you, et cetera and so on. I’m all about prayer, visualization, third eye and meditating into your chakras and jazz like that. I’m not entirely “one with the woo,” but when it’s helpful to me and to other people, I’m all-in.

… things only started going right after I started doing really fundamental mindset shifts.

While I’m not a thousand percent on board with the Law of Attraction idea, I can’t completely excuse it either. I’ll freely admit that things only started going right after I started doing really fundamental mindset shifts, using tools like affirmations on audio, to achieve a two-fold effect of getting more mindful of opportunities already out there, and braver and more assertive to reach for those opportunities.

Whew, that was a little of a tangent. My point is this! We tend to get wrapped up in the show of this Instagram-friendly world that life and relationship coaches tend to build. And I have nooooo doubt that some of these folks are naturally, aesthetically, much more Instagram friendly than I am. Some folks have just got that gift! But my world ain’t that one. We are birds of the same feather if:

  • you skew closer to Tina Belcher on the “grace and poise” scale as opposed to, say, Tyra Banks.
  • you still pick the snooze-button over having time for makeup more than half the time.
  • you probably cuss entirely too much, but whatever.
  • you really get self-conscious because you think you smile like a demented walrus sometimes.
  • your all-black look has an added bonus of hiding lunch stains.
  • you’d love to display your crystal collection, but it’s about as aesthetic as your junk-drawer.
  • your messy bun is not an aesthetic choice, it’s just kind of what your hair does.
Good Lord, it kinda pains me to share these. So very not ‘grammable. But it is very honestly me.

You should definitely stick around if you relate to two or more of these. And if you thought you aren’t getting where you want to be ’cause you just need to be more like that perfect image… Do I EVER have good news for you. You can absolutely get exactly where you want to. Because the dark, dirty secret is… You were already good enough. Just exactly as you are. I’m just here to help you strut that out like you deserve to. It’s called a “practice” for a reason. What step are you going to take today?

Author: completelovelife

LC grew up in Petersburg, Indiana. She ran away to the city of Evansville, then Indianapolis, while chasing dreams and running from demons. Through her journey confronting inner darknesses and transforming them into self-love through learning and compassion, she’s found a home in love and a purpose in service to others. She lives a life of abundant love with her partner, David, in Champaign, Illinois.

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