5 ways to show healthy love even when you’re freakin’ exhausted

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Gosh dang it, I’ve been wiped out this week! I meant to put out the next part of the Fail Series, but I’m sorry, darlings. I didn’t get it done. It’s all back on track for Monday, the 18th, though. I’m looking forward to a productive weekend of writing and behind-the-scenes planning/maintenance/etc.

Plus, I’m putting the finishing touches on a first steps to your soulmate journey checklist I could NOT be more excited about! If you haven’t subscribed to my emails yet, I’d definitely recommend doing so, because subscribers get first dibs on all the goodies!

Today is a little pick-me-up for the folks who are already seeing someone special. It’s just, overall, a tiring time of year – straight through from Halloween til after New Year’s seems like a grind sometimes, doesn’t it? So if you are coupled up, and feel in danger of hitting a rut, here are five little ways to keep things fresh:

It’s the tiny rituals that tend to matter the most.

1) Always take that second to kiss them goodbye before work.

I go to work first, and get home last, every day. In almost two years living together, my partner David has never failed to kiss me goodbye at the door. And it’s never gotten old! Yes, it’s easy to just rush off or to stay in bed if you’ve got the day off to recoup. But lemme tell ya – I feel like a million bucks every single morning, even if I’m grumpy, tired, and in a hurry. Even if HE’S in a hurry. He cares enough to never neglect that little thing. it’s the tiny rituals that tend to matter the most. Pucker up those lips and try it out.

2) Light a pretty candle and have dinner together.

Life is BUSY. Lots and lots of people don’t get to match their schedule up for dinner, so you end up nuking a Lean Cuisine just… whenever, and having a lonely meal while Partner’s working late. I understand that the world is just what it is now – you just can’t do family dinner night every night. But, pick a night. Plan ahead that dinner will be on the table at, say, 6:30. You don’t have to cook a thing – just order a favorite. Uncork a nice wine – or a bubbly to celebrate just getting through the day. Then just enjoy a quiet meal together.

3) Leave them a love note.

You don’t have to write a letter or a sonnet – just a simple “have a good day, I love you!” is plenty to bring a smile. If you pack their lunch, put a little note in their brown bag. Or, you know it’s cold enough they’ll have to wear a coat when they go out. Sneak it in the pocket! If you can’t think of any place to secret away a cute little note, just send a “thinking of you, hope you’re having a good day” text on your lunch break.

4) Toss their towel in the dryer to have it warm for right after their shower.

A fresh, fluffy warm towel is magical. When your partner hops in the shower, take their towel and throw it in the dryer so it will be warm for them. Low effort, high reward. Like I said… It’s the little things!

5) Snuggle! Cuddle. Whatever you want to call it.

Pick the couch instead of the La-Z-Boy and stretch out together during the next TV binge session. Bonus points if you queue up their favorite show before they even have to ask. Take some deep breaths, together. This really might just seem ridiculously simple, but how many times have you been in the same room without really being there in the moment, together? Take turns giving back rubs or head-scratches. Ahh, doesn’t that feel better?

Feel free to share your own suggestions in the comments. Happy Thursday, everyone – we’re almost through this week!